The last several years we have learned about the repercussions of repetitive hits to the heads of our football heroes. Do we really understand though? We see stories about them on the news or read about them in newspaper articles, focused, not on past glories or achievements, but on present day despair. On regrets. On wishing they had lived their lives differently. We see these men in what were supposed to be their retirement golden years: days which were planned to be spent reaping the ... Read On
How I Dealt with Abuse Following A Chronic Injury/Illness
Those of us who have experienced a chronic injury or who have a chronic illness are used to being treated poorly by others. You would think people would be more understanding, but apparently, that's not the way it works. Our Reality We all have war stories. We can all testify to the number of times we have been insulted, demeaned, ... Read On
Living Large and Howling at Our TBI Demons
Everyone has their demons; ghosts that haunt us because of something that has or hasn't happened in our past. For those of us with brain injuries, our collection of demons is varied and extremely powerful. We feel overwhelmed when we face those things that haunt us: peoples' comments, the can't do's, the used to be able to's, the relationship ... Read On
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Don’t Walk…Run!
When you have a brain injury many things change. Life is different in a way you can't explain and other people don't understand. Those other people who don't understand, in an attempt to help us, are always suggesting ways we should approach our injury or live our lives. The trouble is, what they are suggesting is based on their reality, which is the same reality we used to know and live by. The question is, why should we try to do things the same old way, following the same old rules? ... Read On
Facing & Winning the Daily Brain Injury Struggle
Being TBI survivors, we all live the struggle; it's in our face every day. The battle we are in can be physical, mental, emotional or a combination of all three, but it's always there; and it takes strength and perseverance. Every day we wake up to face the same struggle. The same #{%^ struggle. The individual challenges and the details we face each day may be different, but we all have that brain injury struggle in common, and all we want is to be able to live a normal, fulfilled life. The ... Read On
“So That’s Why I Do That!!”
How many of us, TBI survivors, do things or say things only to wonder, minutes later, "Why did I do that?" We go through our day-to-day lives, doing the best we can as we try to "normalize", and we often find ourselves doing these things we think are normal when they aren't at all. It becomes routine to do things without understanding why or thinking anything about them; including how others might think about what we have just done. Even though we have had a brain injury, we don't always ... Read On
You Are Not Broken
Once we begin to understand that something serious has happened to us, the first things we always want to know is, "When will I be all better?" Our natural reaction is to want to be fixed and have our lives magically to return to what we once were and what we once knew. And we want to do it fast. Fixing Things We are a society of fixers. When your car is on the fritz you want someone to get under the hood and fix what's wrong. When you have a brain injury it makes sense that you ... Read On